I want us to be friends in this space, so may I share a bit about myself, and what I’ve learned?
I have a heart for helping people. My favorite thing is connecting with people on a deep level. This is one of the reasons I became a nurse and later a life coach. As a recovery room nurse, I ask people about their pain, and I use skills to alleviate it. I listen, encourage, soothe, teach, and develop plans. There are parallels in life coaching.
Assessment is the first skill I learned in nursing school. It’s the same with coaching. We first assess the whole person, considering the optimal vision of health. We see which areas are unhealthy and we create a plan for wellness and wholeness.
Rewind 30 years. I went from a free-spirited college girl to ambitious nurse, to pregnant housewife in the span of four years. I was strong and capable, taking on many things, and never asking for help. I could paint a room in my house, feed four kids, and still host a dinner party on the weekends.
From the outside, I had it all: nice house, good marriage, four wonderful kids, the cute dog. But somewhere, I started feeling empty and dissatisfied. It’s hard to admit. The problem was I didn’t take good care of myself, I had no guidance, and eventually my self-reliance led to burnout. Relationship trials and teen issues brought me to my knees.
It wasn’t until things got so bad, that I humbly surrendered to God. I sought help and found people and programs to support me. It took deep self reflection to learn how my behaviors, beliefs, strengths and weaknesses, all played supporting roles in the scenes of my life. Knowing oneself is the beginning of all wisdom. This is something the ancient philosophers knew well. Why? Because we can’t reach our full potential as humans otherwise.
Through coaching and mentorship, I intentionally pursued growth and learned skills (the kind not taught in school), and experienced a profound transformation. Learning to manage my mind and emotions improved my relationships tremendously. It is so imperative to pass on healthy behaviors to our children, or we create generations of dysfunction. I now lead and mentor others to help them navigate life and relationships, and avoid pitfalls.
These are the lessons I’ve learned:
Self-worth is given not earned. If I don’t know my God given worth I resort to pleasing, perfecting, and proving, and become crazy mom and martyr, unknowingly pushing away those closest to me. Knowing my worth leads to self-care, good boundaries and living purposefully.
Our love relationships require attention. If they’re not growing, they’re dying. There is no in between. They must be constantly nurtured. Managing my mind and behaviors changes my responses, which improve the relationship. No controlling necessary! Practicing empathy and deep listening brings connection.
Faith is the foundation of a beautiful life. Without faith, things are meaningless. Surrender to God brings freedom and trust, especially with our children. With God, all things are possible, including peace and joy in any circumstance.
Our health is directly related to our daily habits. As a nurse, I have seen the cost and misery of making poor health choices. In my own life poor eating and stress led to an autoimmune disease. From there, I began my quest to learn how food, exercise and managing stress could bring me to remission. Health is not just physical. It is emotional and spiritual as well.
Self-discipline and skills are crucial to reach new heights. When overwhelmed by something, it’s usually because I need to learn and implement a skill. Personal skill work builds resistance and brings peace. I want to share some amazing life hacks with you!
I’ll be talking about all these topics in this space. I hope I can stay in your inbox, but if this is not for you, you are free to unsubscribe below at any time. No hard feelings!
If you would like to connect, hit reply or email at info@rosanneterzian.com. I would love to hear which topic interests you most!
Happy Easter 🐣,
Rosanne